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trying to figure out how good we are doing financially?

puppiesnmarshmellows asked:


This is going to be embarrasing, but i don’t know if we are doing ok or not. I don’t know what the norm is for money leftover after bills but according to a debt/income ratio i did today we are at 34% which is good, i guess.

My husband makes 1333 twice a month (that is what we see after taxes) there is a addtional 125 going straight to our savings account each month on top of the 1333 twice a month.

Our bills are as follows

first check
car-291
insurance-62
elecric,gas,water 200
credit card 170
cable-93
which leaves 517 left for gas and groceries

second check
mortgage 600
home equity 103
home phone and internet 100
cell phone150
which is a little tighter at 380 for gas and groceries

total for the month we have 917 left in our checking, including the 125 that is in our savings its 1042 a month.
I just am curious how we are doing financially? I’m scared to death about this kind of thing and fear we are doing something wrong. We are military so no health ins.
well we’re military so no job loss..and no unexpected medical bills. we really don’t have to worry about that because its a secure job.
no credit card is what we decide to pay on it..that isn’t the minimum payment. We have a home phone and a cell phone because up until a month ago we only had a home phone. Effective the 26th we will no longer have that home phone. The second mortgage was to redo our home, its almost paid off now, it was only 10,000.
oh and why don’t i work? I have two small children and noone to care for them. We don’t live near our families. There is NOTHING wrong with being a SAHM parent.

ARNOLD

 

Can I be forced to sell my home?

Grateful Believer asked:


Ok I’ll try to make this as short as possible (if it’s even possible)…

We have a first and a second mortgage on our home. I had developed somewhat of a friendship (via phone) with our broker over the years. He had done a 2 or 3 loans for me prior to the one’s I currently have. When we went into doing a good size remodel he did a 30 year fixed mortgage loan that was killing me financially during construction. So, during the end of construction May 05′ we refinanced into a Negative AM Loan and due to needing more $ to finish our project we took out a second in the amount of $25,000 ($20,0000 was what our contractor told us we needed for completion). The plan was that a Negative AM would give us a little extra cash if we needed it for the finishing touches. With this loan I could choose month to month to either make a Neg AM minimum payment, interest only payment, 30 year fixed or 15 year fixed payment. After a year we would refinance the 1st and 2nd into 1.

Well, I had called our broker 3-4 times in the months following the signing of papers concerning when the payment for the 2nd was due and for how much. 1st contact was about 1 month after completion of the loan to let him know I hadn’t recieved a statement for the 2nd. He said it was on his desk and he hadn’t gotten to it but will soon. I called at least 3 more times over the next few months and was told the same thing during the 2nd and 3rd contact. Then by the 4th contact he said don’t worry about it just appreciate it now. I thought ok I guess we’ll just deal with it later (yes, I know that sounds stupid and why would someone do that right?) I didn’t really think much of it because like I said we had developed somewhat of a friendship over the years. (And NO not sexual, I have never met the man in person and I am MARRIED)

A year came and went, then a year and a half came. I called him sometime in January or February 07′ to asked him when we were going to refinance the loans. He said let’s do it. I started the process of submitting all the paperwork and he ordered an appraisal which we paid for out of our pocket. The result was that we had plenty of equity to qualify but due to our credit scores at the time (which weren’t to bad but not great) he advised us to wait because the interest rates were continuing to drop and he was confident that we could get a better interest rate if we were to wait a little longer. We both agreed.

Another year went by. In January 08′ I called him again to start the process of refinancing. Again, I submitted the paperwork and paid for another apprasial. I shared my concern with him regarding the news of foreclosures and it making it harder for me to get refinanced. I let him know I didn’t want to lose my home. He understood my concern but was still confident and advised me not to worry. He wanted us to somehow cut our credit card debt down by 50%. He suggested to borrow money from our family or friends. Well, needless to say that was not possible. I don’t have any rich family members or friends that would let me borrow 6 or $7,000. This was so I could manipulate the balance of my close to being maxed out credit cards. So, that’s how we left it. I was to try and get my credit cards down. That was in March. I called him and July to let him know I wanted to get it done. He asked me to call him back next week. I agreed but didn’t. Not on purpose, but at my job, the summer is crazy.

Coincidentally, while our economy is going down the crapper, I recieved a phone call from him a couple of days ago letting me know we needed to come up with some kind of plan, he said I needed to come up with atleast $15,000 in 30 days!!!! If I do that he will wait on the rest so I can continue to pay down my debts and refinance me later. He told me if I didn’t, we would have to sell our house because, at this time I still have enough equity to pay him off.

So, after this long story my question is… can he force us to sell our home? I have been loyal in paying my 1st on time without default. I don’t have a problem paying him back, I did borrow the money. It’s not like I’ve ignored the 2nd completely either. I have looked through my paperwork and it doesn’t have any payment address or who to make the payment out to. Can he just all of a sudden demand this money to be paid to him? Can he force my family out on the streets? For a $25,000 debt I had inquired about a number of times and a first that has no default against it.

ENRIQUE